Your child won’t listen? There are a couple more things to do when a child won’t listen.
For levels 1, 2 and 3, see “HOW TO GET YOUR CHILD TO LISTEN- POSITIVE TALK” and “HOW TO GET YOUR CHILD TO LISTEN- INFORMATION/FEELINGS”.
LEVEL 4 Asking Questions
A child will begin to understand this level at about four and a half.
There are five types of questions that engage cooperation according to Myrna Shure’s Raising a Thinking Child.
“Is this a GOOD PLACE or NOT A GOOD PLACE for you to play?”
“Is that a GOOD PLACE or NOT A GOOD PLACE to place your cup?”
“Can I talk to you AND the person on the phone AT THE SAME TIME?”
“What might happen to your toys if you play with them in the middle of the hall way?”
“How MIGHT grandma feel if you step on her flowers?”
Child’s Feeling Questions
“How MIGHT your hand feel if touch the hot stove?”
Can you think of a DIFFERENT place to play so that will NOT happen?
Shure, M., Digeronimo, T. F., & Aher, J. (2000). Raising a thinking child
workbook: Teaching young children how to resolve everyday conflicts and get
along with others . Champaigne, Illinois: Research Press.